My daughter climbed a ladder the other day.
She is just shy of 20 months old but apparently she believed she was ready climb a ladder. I know, terrible parenting. My mother in law was repainting some walls in the dining room when this occurred. Hours and hours she was working on this project, moving the ladder six inches at a time across the floor. My little girl watched her go up and down, up and down this ladder while playing with some blocks in the room over. Occasionally she would push herself up and hobble over to watch her grandmother (we call her Tilly) go up and down, up and down. My daughter has always been observant so we didn’t think twice about her watching Tilly go up and down the ladder. It was family dinner night so my wife and I were in the kitchen. Adjacent to the dining room, cooking with the rest of the family when Tilly shouted the words that sends parents scrambling to see what is happening.
“Get down from there!”
“Oh boy” I thought to myself.
“No, I don’t think so, get down from there.”
We turned the corner to the dining room only to see my mother in law standing there dumb-founded, paint brush in one hand, and paint-can in the other, while my daughter was reaching for step four on this six-foot ladder. Tilly looked at me like I should do something to get her down. My wife was speechless. Both were appalled that I was standing there with a stupid dad grin on my face. Our little girl hobbles more than walks and here she was climbing a ladder like it was the most reasonable thing for her to do. She had carefully watching Tilly go up and down, up and down so why shouldn’t she go up and down? I’ve never been more proud.
I encouraged my little girl (to the disappointment of my sweet wife) to make it all the way to the top. Of course I was right there to make sure if she fell I would catch her. My daughter got mad at me if I touched her so I kept my hand close without interfering with her climb. And of course I was videoing the whole thing. I had one hand near her back and one hand holding my phone at the ideal camera angle. She made it to the top and stood proudly on top of that ladder, big ol’ smile on her face that said, “look at me dad!”. We went up and down that ladder again and again for the next 20 minutes, making to the top each time and smiling big at dad each time. That was a special moment for me and my daughter. My wife kept saying, “I can’t, I just can’t” from the kitchen. It always makes me laugh when my wife “just can’t.”
I try to pay attention to little things about my daughter during moments like this one. I observe her quirks and attitudes, her personality and character. In one of the parenting books passed on to us by my parents, the author informs parents that between 18 months to 2 years, children are giving us glimpses of who they will be. So I observe how she handles problems and frustrations (beyond temper tantrums, those teach us nothing)I pay attention to how she interacts with us, how she plays. All these little things give us a clue into who our daughter will become.
I pay attention to these little details because I have to raise whoever she becomes. If I do not pay attention to her personality, her quirks, she shyness or boldness, I will be lost in how to parent. This ladder incident gave me some key insights into who she will become. First, she doesn’t ask for permission. She observes what others are doing and then she copies. She watched her grandmother go up and down, up and down that ladder for hours. She watched her closely enough to decide that she was capable of climbing the ladder just like Tilly.
My daughter is independent. “I do it, I do it, I do it” she says over and over again. She said it on the ladder too, even when she was struggling to climb, which she was struggling to climb. She didn’t give up though, it didn’t even cross her mind. She is persistent and determined to do what she has set her mind to do. In some way I already knew this about her. We counted how many times she asked for berries the other night in a 3 minute period. We stopped counting at 50.
My daughter observes and acts; she is persistent and determined to do what she has set her mind to do; she is independent and does not want help; She charges ahead without regard for consequences. She also wants to be older than she is right now. We are catching glimpses of who she mimics and who she doesn’t mimic. My daughter is shy around kids her age and seeks out one older kid she can hang around. When she is at home with just us, she does everything independent of us. When she is around other people, she is overcome by shyness.
This is my daughter, the one I get to raise. In some regard, she is much like other children. Many of the traits I listed are common in children but every parent realizes their child is unique. I have a responsibility to raise the child entrusted to me knowing that she will need to be raised in a specific way. I don’t know much about parenting but I at least know that. I have an obligation to pay attention to who she is and how she interacts with the world around her. If I fail to pay attention, I will be at a loss when it comes to raising her well.
As I am trying to figure out what kind of dad I want to be, I know one thing for sure. I want to be a dad that pays attention. I want to be a dad who knows who my daughter is and who she is becoming. I do not want to be a checked out dad, concerned only with my little world of work and hobby. I don’t want someone to ask me what my daughter is like and not be able to answer. I want to observe her in the same way she observed her Tilly going up and down, up and down.
This little girl I have before me is a whole world of discovery. Each day I get to learn something new about who she is and how I can raise her well. I get to discover her personality, her little soul, all that brings her joy and makes her giggle. I get to discover how she responds when she is frustrated or shy and I get to mold a better response to the frustrations of life. Her life and all that she is right now, all I get to discover, is a gift to me as a father.
What a gift.
I want to be a dad who pays attention. That is the kind of dad I want to be.
What is the step ladder for social anxiety? ›
The stepladder approach is a step-by-step way of helping children with anxiety. The approach involves tackling little things before you face really scary things. The approach encourages children to face their fears, rather than avoiding them. You can use the approach for different ages and anxieties.Where is the ladder placement for window rescue? ›
No matter what type of operation we are undertaking with a ground ladder, the ladder tip needs to be placed just below the window sill ledge. This allows the firefighter to perform any type of operation, task or technique for what they are dealt with.What are the ladder commands for firefighters? ›
The firefighter in front or right front shall give the “STOP” command when the ladder is being positioned on the fire ground. The Firefighter at the butt position shall give commands when RAISING, EXTENDING, LAYING IN, TAKING AWAY, RETRACTING and LOWERING.What are the three stages of social anxiety? ›
For someone suffering with social anxiety, a forthcoming social event will present 3 different stages that the sufferer will experience psychologically: the anticipatory phase, exposure to the actual situation itself and post-event processing.What is an example of a fear ladder in social anxiety? ›
|Tell a classmate about your weekend||8|
|Ask a classmate a quick question (for example, “Is the math quiz on Friday?”)||6|
|Make a comment to a classmate (for example, “Have a good weekend!”)||5|
|Say “hi” to a classmate in the hall||4|
The short answer to the question - "can you put a ladder against a window" is no. You should never attempt to lean a ladder against a window even if you think it's secure. The force of the ladder against the glass plus the additional weight of you, your equipment, etc. can cause the glass to crack or shatter.Where do you face when climbing a ladder? ›
When climbing up or down, always: Face the stepladder. Keep your body centered between side rails. Maintain three-point contact by keeping two hands and one foot, or two feet and one hand on a ladder always.What is ladder placement? ›
The ladder should be placed so that its base is one foot away from what the ladder leans against for every four feet in height to the point where the ladder rests. This is referred to as the four-to-one rule. For example, if a 16 foot ladder leans against a wall, its base should be placed four feet from the wall.What are the 7 priorities of firefighting? ›
All firefighters should know a RECEO VS (Rescue, Exposure, Confine, Extinguish, Overhaul and Ventilate, Salvage) acronym or derivative of the same to assist with making tactical decisions.What are the basic ladder logic commands? ›
The five most used ladder logic symbols are as follows: Normally Open Contact, Normally Closed Contact, Output Energize, Output Latch and Output Unlatch. These five instructions are commonly used in ladder logic for bit manipulation.
What are the 3 command modes firefighting? ›
The incident commander (IC) must have options regarding the initial actions at a scene. Command modes or command options are selected according to the initial and continuing conditions at the emergency scene and those modes are: nothing showing, fast attack, and command mode.What are 3 ladder safety rules? ›
Maintain a 3-point contact (two hands and a foot, or two feet and a hand) when climbing/ descending a ladder. Stay near the middle of the ladder and face the ladder while climbing up/down. Use a barricade to keep traffic away from the ladder. Keep ladders free of any slippery materials.What is the 3 to 1 ladder rule? ›
To use ladders safely, always maintain three points of contact. That means two hands and one foot or two feet and one hand on the ladder at all times. Moving quickly often results in only 2-point contact. You often have to make a conscious effort to maintain 3-point contact.What is the golden rule using a ladder? ›
Always maintain three points of contact with the ladder. This means two hands and one foot, or two feet and one hand on the ladder. Never lean or reach away from the ladder while using it. Only take small items up or down a ladder and items that allow you to maintain three points of contact.What are the 3 C's of behavioral anxiety? ›
Some clients may be familiar with the “3 C's” which is a formalized process for doing both the above techniques (Catch it, Check it, Change it). If so, practice and encourage them to apply the 3 C's to self- stigmatizing thoughts.What are 5 symptoms of social anxiety disorder? ›
- Low self-esteem.
- Trouble being assertive.
- Negative self-talk.
- Hypersensitivity to criticism.
- Poor social skills.
- Isolation and difficult social relationships.
- Low academic and employment achievement.
- Substance abuse, such as drinking too much alcohol.
The 3 P's stand for Pervasiveness, Permanence and Personalisation. Pervasiveness looks at how much of your life a concern impacts – How big? Permanence looks at how long an issue is going to be of concern – How long? Personalisation looks at how much you feel you are to blame – How much?How do you deal with ladder anxiety? ›
Preventing your anxiety from occurring
While playing, you should always keep focusing on your next steps, rather than thinking back about what went wrong. Focus in general is really important – the more you concentrate on the game, the less time you have to think about misplays.
A person with social anxiety disorder feels symptoms of anxiety or fear in situations where they may be scrutinized, evaluated, or judged by others, such as speaking in public, meeting new people, dating, being on a job interview, answering a question in class, or having to talk to a cashier in a store.What is the fear ladder for adults? ›
A fear ladder is a list of the situations you fear, listed from the least scary to the scariest. In order to do this, you need to rate each situation on the fear thermometer. A fear thermometer helps you identify how much fear you have of a specific situation or thing.
What is the biggest cause of ladder accidents? ›
Incorrect Use of Ladders
Human error is by far the leading cause of ladder accidents. Never use a ladder in any other way than what the manufacturer intended it to be used for.
While origins of this myth vary depending on the culture, the most accepted version is that ladders were thought to resemble gallows in medieval times. Therefore, if you walked under a ladder, you would be destined for the gallows yourself.What is the safest way to fall off a ladder? ›
It is better to land on your arm than on your head. While falling, twist or roll your body to the side. It is better to land on your buttocks and side than on your back. Keep your wrists, elbows and knees bent.What is the 4 1 rule for ladders? ›
The base of the ladder should be placed so that it is one foot away from the building for every four feet of hight to where the ladder rests against the building. This is known as the 4 to 1 rule.What are ladder unsafe acts? ›
Reaching or leaning too far rather than moving the ladder. Placing the ladder on boxes or pallets to gain height. Climbing the ladder while carrying items. Standing on the very top step or rung when the ladder is too short for the task.What are three key things you must remember when working from a ladder? ›
Maintain a firm grip. Use both hands when climbing. Keep both feet on the ladder.Where should ladders not be placed? ›
Ladders shall not be placed in passageways, doorways, drives, or any locations where they may be pumped or displaced by any other work unless protected by barricades or guards.What height should you never use single ladders over? ›
Single Ladders rated for medium duty service are available in lengths up to 24 feet, and those rated for light-duty service do not exceed 16 feet in length. Selection of proper Single Ladder size requires knowledge of the height of the top support point.What are the 5 rules of the firemen? ›
- Rule Number One: Expect Fire.
- Rule Number Two: Never Pass Fire.
- Rule Number Three: Try Before You Pry.
- Rule Number Four: Never Let Fire Get Above Or Below You.
- Rule Number Five: Everyone Goes Home.
The number one priority on any fire scene is life safety. Firefighters constantly train in order to prepare themselves to rescue trapped occupants in a burning building.
What is the firefighter golden rule? ›
When it comes to firefighting tactics, the golden rule for stretching a hose-line for a structure fire is, never enter the fire area without a charged hose line. This is done for one reason, firefighter safety.What is ladder code? ›
Ladder logic is a programming language that represents a program by a graphical diagram based on the circuit diagrams of relay logic hardware. It is primarily used to develop software for PLCs used in industrial control applications.How do I learn ladder logic? ›
To learn ladder logic, you'll need to start with understanding current flow from the left rail to the right one. In summary, the current will attempt to flow through one rung at a time. As it encounters an input condition, it evaluates the result to TRUE or FALSE.Is ladder logic easy to learn? ›
Ladder programming is a visual language, and because it mimics electrical relay circuits, most people find it easy to learn ladder logic basics.What are the six fire commands? ›
There are six elements in the fire command of the machine gun: alert; direction; description; range; method of fire; and command to open fire. The gunners repeat each element of fire command as it is given.What are the 2 primary command modes? ›
The two primary modes of operation are user EXEC mode and privileged EXEC mode.Who enforces the two in two out rule? ›
OSHA does, however, encourage compliance by these employers. OSHA also emphasizes that the two-in/two-out provision, like all OSHA standards, states a minimum requirement.What are standard ladder rules? ›
Maintain ladders free of oil, grease and other slipping hazards. Do not load ladders beyond their maximum intended load nor beyond their manufacturer's rated capacity. Use ladders only for their designed purpose. Use ladders only on stable and level surfaces unless secured to prevent accidental movement.What are 4 safe ways to use a ladder? ›
Climb down and move the ladder regularly to avoid over-reaching. Never over-reach sideways – keep your belt buckle between the ladder uprights. Keep three points of contact on the ladder at all times – two hands and one foot, or two feet and one hand while climbing, and two feet and one hand when working.What is the OSHA 4 foot ladder rule? ›
The rule requires employers to protect workers from fall hazards along unprotected sides or edges that are at least 4 feet above a lower level.
What is the 2 person rule when climbing a ladder? ›
What this means is either at least two hands and one foot, or two feet and one hand should always be on the ladder rungs. Leaning one's body or torso on the ladder does not count as a point of contact!What are the 4 golden rules? ›
They are: (1) Use specialist products; (2) Diversify manager research risk; (3) Diversify investment styles; and, (4) Rebalance to asset mix policy.What is the ladder rule for height? ›
A person's maximum safe reaching height is approximately 4' higher than the height of the ladder. For example, a typical person can safely reach an 8' ceiling on a 4' ladder*. Extension ladders should be 7 to 10 feet longer than the highest support or contact point, which may be the wall or roof line.What are the 4 steps in the cycle of anxiety? ›
- Stage 1. Feeling anxious and wanting to deal with it.
- Stage 2. Attempting to avoid the situation.
- Stage 3. Feeling a temporary sense of relief.
- Stage 4. Returning to a state of heightened anxiety.
It involves looking around your environment to identify three objects and three sounds, then moving three body parts. Many people find this strategy helps focus and ground them when anxiety overwhelms them.What is the 3 step method for anxiety? ›
- Step 1: Focus on 3 Things You Can See. Focusing on things that you can see helps you become visually aware of your surroundings. ...
- Step 2: Focus on 3 Things You Can Hear. ...
- Step 3: Focus on 3 Things You Can Touch/Move.
Each ladder should include a whole range of situations. The ladder should include some steps you can do now with mild anxiety, some that you can do now with moderate anxiety and, finally, the steps you find too difficult to do now. It is important to start really small and take gradual steps.What are the three C's of anxiety recovery? ›
It is based on the three "C's" of recovery calm your body, correct your thinking, and confront your fears.What are the 5 types of coping strategies for anxiety? ›
- Keep physically active. ...
- Avoid alcohol and recreational drugs. ...
- Quit smoking, and cut back or quit drinking caffeinated beverages. ...
- Use stress management and relaxation techniques. ...
- Make sleep a priority. ...
- Eat healthy foods. ...
- Learn about your disorder.
- Shout it out. Talking to a trusted friend is one way to cope with anxiety. ...
- Get moving. ...
- Break up with caffeine. ...
- Give yourself a bedtime. ...
- Feel OK saying no. ...
- Don't skip meals. ...
- Give yourself an exit strategy. ...
- Live in the moment.
What are 3 negative ways to deal with anxiety? ›
- Criticizing yourself (negative self-talk)
- Driving fast in a car.
- Chewing your fingernails.
- Becoming aggressive or violent (hitting someone, throwing or kicking something)
- Eating too much or too little or drinking a lot of coffee.
- Smoking or chewing tobacco.
- Drinking alcohol.
Extreme social anxiety: A person with extreme social anxiety may experience more intense symptoms of social anxiety, such as a panic attack, in social situations. Because of this, people with extreme social anxiety usually avoid social situations at all costs.How do you calm down an anxious child? ›
- Breathe slowly and deeply together. ...
- Sit with them and offer calm physical reassurance. ...
- Try using all five senses together. ...
- Reassure them that the anxiety will pass and that they will be okay. ...
- Ask them to think of a safe and relaxing place or person in their mind.
This technique asks you to find five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste. Using this with someone who feels anxious will help to calm them down and reduce their feelings of anxiety.What is the 4 7 8 technique for anxiety? ›
The 4-7-8 breathing technique involves breathing in for 4 seconds, holding the breath for 7 seconds, and exhaling for 8 seconds. People may find it helps manage anxiety. This breathing pattern aims to reduce anxiety or help people get to sleep.What is an anxiety ladder? ›
The Fear Ladder is a tool for exploring and ranking the contexts or situations in which a client experiences fear. It is designed to help the client and the therapist identify targets for exposure and monitor the progress made in confronting these fears.What is the step ladder for anxiety in children? ›
The stepladder approach is a step-by-step way of helping with anxiety in children. It's based on the principle of 'graded exposure'. This means starting off small, tackling the little things before you face the really scary things.What is a fear ladder for kids? ›
Construct a ladder of places or situations that you avoid. At the top of the ladder put those which make you most anxious. At the bottom of the ladder put places or situations you avoid, but which don't bother you as much.